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Love Obsessions and / or Relationship Addictions
The world is turning upside down, especially as new addictions come into play. Obsessive love addictions or obsessive relationship addictions are those where a person cannot survive without a mate in their life.
To give you an idea of a healthy relationship verses an addictive relationship we can consider the following:
Healthy relationship
People in this relationship have learnt to love self and others, and can survive on their own, or else in a relationship.
Addictive relationship
People exhibiting love addictions will find it difficult to stand alone, i.e. they jump from relationship to relationship, and most times the relationships are unhealthy. The person has not made a connection with self, i.e. the person hasn’t learnt to love self. These people will put up with anything at all to stay in a relationship, including abuse, both mental and physical.
The signs
A person who suffers from love addictions or relationship addictions lacks nurturing or development and will often strive, seeking attention. This is a narcissistic personality obsessive disorder that leads them to the addiction.
The person is often emotionally detached from self and isolated mentally as well as physically, thus the individual will remove themselves from supporting members, i.e. family or friends.
People will often appeal to society as a productive person, yet inside, each individual is hiding through disintegration. The person will often strive on drama impact relationships since intensity is mistaken as intimacy. The person strives to avoid abandonment and rejections, and will often lack trust.
Persons with these addictions are angry inside, since the sense of nurturing was denied, or else the individual was abandoned during his/her earlier phase of life. Often these people suffer depression and will manipulate their situation in an effort to control others. The person perceives elements of relationships, such as attachment, magnetism, and sex as a human requirement.
People with love addictions will feel helpless when a partner does not exist in their life. In other words, the individual is dependant on others to fulfil needs. The person will often consider that mates are the only purpose in life that makes a person complete. This individual will often escalate to higher risk behaviours, in which the person′s tolerance level changes. The person feels a strong desire to control others, as well as controlling self and situations.
Most people with love obsessions will have addictive symptoms, which include one or more of obsession in a relationship, obsessive compulsive personality disorder, obsessive personality, obsessive personality disorder, obsessive disorder, obsessive and compulsive disorder, obsessive compulsive behaviour, obsessive love disorder, obsessive love relationships and obsessive love addiction. When the person does not have a mate, they might resort to attention seeking strategies to lure in a mate. These types might sleep with multiple partners until someone agrees to join in a relationship.
The parties having sexual relations with these types are often viewed as partners, i.e. the partner is under control of the addict. The sex is often utilized to relieve pain stemming from emotions, or else to modify the moods. The person will continue to dispute any allegations that they have a problem. Addicts of love often have desperate personalities and driven compulsions.
People with love addictions confuse sex or chemical attractions as a sign of love. The person often exposes tendencies to engage in sex mistaking it for love. Living in secrecy the person will often live double lives, i.e. showing self as a society prone person in front of people and a mentally ill person outside of society.
Most times, a person with obsessive personality disorder is in denial, and has difficulties deciphering his / her needs or wants. This specific addiction is often said to be less severe than other common addictions, however this is far from the truth. Anytime a person is addicted to something that leads them to high risks, the risks are still extreme.
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